Has all the hype about the G-Spot left you feeling like you haven’t been invited to the party of the decade? Well you are not alone. It`s not the only party in town, but it certainly is getting a lot of coverage.
If you are wondering if you have a G-Spot, the answer is yes. It is a place on the upper wall of the vagina, where the vaginal wall runs alongside the urethral sponge. The what? The urethral sponge is the area surrounding the urethra, the vessel that urine passes through. The urethral opening, or the pee hole, comes out just below the clitoris and is modest enough to be unnoticeable during sex and even difficult to find when you look for it. But the tunnel leading to the outlet runs along part of the vagina, and this area has an extra sensitive spot, which has become know as the G-Spot.
When it comes to G-Spot arousal, it gets a bit complicated. First of all you have to learn to find the spot, which could be tough considering you can’t see in there. If and when you find it, you may or may not be able to enjoy stimulation – some women love it and others just don’t get that lovin’ feeling. This is not a malfunction, it is simply another example of how different women respond to different forms of stimulation.
The G-Spot was first described by Dr. Ernest Grafenberg, the guy after whom the world’s most elusive “G” was named. In 1950 he introduced the medical world to his finding, an area of about 2.5cm (1″) along the front of the vagina. He described how stimulating this area brought women to orgasm, without any clitoral involvement. His paper was then lost in a medical publication for 30 years.
In 1982 the idea resurfaced, this time in the bestseller book by Alice Kahn Ladas, Beverly Whipple and John D. Perry, entitled “The G Spot: And Other Discoveries About Human Sexuality“. They named it after Doc Grafenberg, and launched the big G into celebrity.
Since then there has been a lot of sexual politics surrounding the G-Spot. Some have said it is the single way of achieving orgasm through penetration, others have said it is a hoax, and that the clitoris remains queen. The interesting part is that the medical world has generally shied away from studying it thoroughly, and has therefore left us hanging with questions. The facts are that some women experience G-Spot orgasms, which feel different to clitoral orgasms, and some of these women experience ejaculation before, during or after G-Spot orgasms. Other women are perfectly happy with what already works for them. And then there are those growing numbers of women being told that they are missing out on what the others have (usually the people telling us this are trying to sell the antidote).
What we would like to know is whether those women who do not have G-gasms could learn to have them or if they simply are not put together that way? Well, the answers are not yet available, but in the spirit of research, we recommend that you go out there, each and every curious soul, equip yourself with a G-friendly vibrator or an agile arm and a dexterous finger, and do your part for scientific inquiry. You have nothing to lose but your ignorance.