Toy Therapy: Taking Sex Toys to the Next Level

It was difficult enough for Lana to make the appointment. She had been denying she had sexual problems for as long as she could. With her relationship in danger of becoming calcified in a sexless state, as she put it, she could not afford to keep telling herself and her partner that her desire would return when the she got more sleep, when her boss retired or when summer came and she could lose the extra... read more

Vestibulitis: A Visual Diary

“I have been living with secondary vestibulitis for a few years (and and few other related pain conditions) and really bent over backwards to salvage my sexuality.” This is the story of Arashi, visual artist, writer and sex-positive vestibulitis patient and her surgical choice to heal her condition. Watch here as her story unfolds, from the weeks before her surgery to heal her vestibulitis, until a year... read more

The Vestibulitis Diary – Part 19: Finale

One Year After Surgery I hadn’t written about the pain for a long time. Like a sad memory, I tried to repress it, tuck it away in the back corner of my mind. People sometimes ask if the surgery killed the pain, and whether or not I would suggest surgery to others. The surgery was both easier and harder than I had thought. It was easier because my Dr. did a modified vestibulectomy which took out just... read more

The Vestibulitis Diary – Part 18: Out of Sync

Day 200 After Surgery 6 months out from the Vestibulectomy surgery and things are still not completely fine. I had recovered a lot. There was a lot of residual sensitivity that faded. The stitches are gone. The stress induced hematomas went away. I was very thankful to have all those painful things gone. But now is my battle against scar tissue. Before there had been constant burning pain, where even a... read more

The Vestibulitis Diary – Part 17: If Only

Day 95 After Surgery We tried sex for the first time after the surgery. Apparently a little under three months was just too soon. It hurt as bad or worse before the surgery. Admittedly I was slack on the physical therapy and daunted by a big hematoma on the incision line that would flare up and be gone in a matter of hours (being fairly painful in the interim). Needless to say, I was saddened. It was one... read more

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