Multiple orgasms are not a rare quality that the gods bestowed upon a few random women. They are also not a Hollywood conspiracy to make all women feel inadequate (there are plenty such conspiracies, but this isn’t one of them). Multiple orgasms are women’s trophy for absolute indulgence in our sexuality.
Unlike men, women are designed for multiple orgasm. To explain what the great MO is, let’s understand what it is not. The single orgasm is a build up of tension from sexual arousal, leading up to a peak, from which there is a release that is, in essence, muscular spasms taking place in the pelvic floor area, accompanied by a release of positive neurotransmitters and enzymes in the brain. Basically, a full mind-body experience.
In men, there is a physical limitation after orgasm. A drop in tension and arousal occurs after blast off, and for a period of time following this (known as the refractory stage), the guy is unable to rise to another occasion. Many men understand this as an invitation to roll over and create nasal music, but this is not biologically determined; it is just a habit they picked up somewhere. This refractory period varies between men, and more noticeable, it varies with age: where an 18-year old may need ten minutes rest, a 70-year old may need a few days.
When it comes to women, there is no such refractory period. After an orgasm, a woman does not need to cool down her system and reboot; she can stay revved up as long as stimulation and interest continue, if her arousal does not drop below a certain point. From here, she is basically ready for another build-up and thereby another orgasm, and another, and another. As far as our bodies are concerned, there is no specific number marking the absolute limit to how many orgasms a woman can have; the boundaries are in the willingness to seek them. All that is necessary, if you are able to reach a single orgasm, is to keep the stimulation coming and to stay engaged.
After a handful of orgasms, each consecutive one becomes less dramatic than the previous one. On the other hand, once you are able to produce them in bunches, orgasms tend to come with greater ease. So if someone tells you she enjoyed 17 orgasms at a particular session, she may not be lying, but it is highly unlikely that at that level of excitement she is able to count accurately and distinguish the end of one orgasm from the start of another.
If it is important enough to you, there is a way to get an exact count of orgasms reached by inserting an electrode into the vagina and masturbating to multiple orgasm, letting the electrode measure the muscular activity. This is the method that Masters & Johnson used in the 1960′s to measure and thereby describe the multiple orgasm, for the first time in scientific terms. Evidently, as women, we were not endowed with the level of testosterone that would render this enticing. After all, it is not about getting the most, but rather about getting enough – and that is absolutely relative. It changes with your mood, your hormonal level, your arousal during a specific situation and the time you have to play.
So why is it necessary to find multiple orgasms if single orgasms are highly satisfying?
For one thing, because some orgasms are weaker than others, even in women who are usually satisfied by a loner. This means that the spasms were not strong enough to release all the blood that had engorged the genitals, and that leaves a woman feeling partially but not fully satisfied. Having the knowledge that there are more orgasms ready to be had, can turn this particular moment around.
And another excellent reason to bring them on – because we can.
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