| Sunday, September 30, 2007 |
| Less Hollywood, More Real Flesh |
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Americans have exported a brand of free sexual culture to wherever they screen MTV or Diet Coke ads. Turns out all that great sex and sensuality on screen is no reflection of what’s going on in their real-life boudoirs.

The Durex Sexual Wellbeing survey has recently released partial results of their 2007/2008 research. In April this year, Durex published findings that showed how Americans are having less sex than most of the 26 other countries surveyed. It also showed that satisfaction levels were low, so that under half of Americans experienced sex as fully satisfying.
It used to be that sex only happened behind closed doors; it seems that it’s now not happening there, but its pretending to happen in every other niche.
The news from the latest Durex dispatch is that Americans are pretty much at the bottom of the charts when it comes to gettin’ some. Except for the Japanese, Americans are having the least amount of sex of all nations (53% of respondents saying they were having sex weekly). This is not because abstinence education is working, because these are the findings for non-virgins only. Top of the list, by the way, are the Greeks (87%), Brazilians (82%) and Russians (80%). Who’d have thought?
On the other hand, we’ve also learned that Americans are using sex toys and lubricants more than anyone else. The issue it more likely to be about the problems in finding partners for sex, for keeping the partners, and for keeping the sex alive with existing partners. More than a third of Americans have used vibrators and over half use lubricants, which are large increases over the last few years.
American women still have had fewer partners than the US men (9 vs. 13, on average) but the men in the US fall right on the global average, whereas the gals are above average; the international average for women is 7 partners.
My point is not that we should be entering sex as an Olympic sport, where we can compete between nations for best output, but rather than we should be more critical of the media messages we receive. It seems that sexual images are more wish fulfillment than reflection of reality.
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| Monday, September 24, 2007 |
| Finding the Right Fit |
Contemporary wisdom tells us that females pay more attention to details than men. Completely different contemporary wisdom holds that men pay lots of attention to their penises. So what’s the outcome of matters related to the details of penis size?
Now here is another reason for men to be a bit more like women and pay attention to the details. Not only is it an important reason, but its one that shouldn’t be too tough – it’s about your penis, after all.

Penises, as we well know, come in lots and lots of different sizes. Condoms, their most common dress wear, come in far fewer shapes and sizes. But even with this limitation, there are plenty more variations of condoms than what is commonly known.
A recent publication from the University of Indiana (Reece, Herbenick and Dodge) asserts that a large proportion of guys use condoms that just don’t fit right. Wearing condoms that are too tight, too short, too loose or too long can lead to tears or slippage, and it can lower the chances of consistent condom use.
Imagine if we women just threw on the first bra that we chanced upon in some department store. What would the world look like then?
Maybe we need to employ some of the brutal techniques that have become an acceptable part of the female fitting ritual. We’ll have condom stores with dressing rooms, where a group of matronly women will enter cubicles unannounced. They’ll pull and poke, and they’ll adjust. They’ll blurt out “you need a smaller condom” or “look how you’re hanging out over here”. It’ll hurt and it’ll humiliate, but in the end, you’ll find the one that lies just right and doesn’t lose its hold until you’ve worked it down to the pulp.
Read more about finding the right condom fit and learn about the range of condoms on the market
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| Sunday, September 16, 2007 |
| Redressing Size in the Male of the Species |
It takes a really big man to do what Enrique Iglesias did recently when he told Esquire Magazine that he had trouble finding suitable condoms because he considers himself to be smaller in the condom section than most men.

Esquire is one of those testosterone boosting mags, which makes me think that there are a whole lot of readers who know deep down just what he’s talking about. But this is not just about selling consumer magazines, or the huge contract that Enrique got to endorse the Lifestyles range which sells a tight fitting condom. This is really one giant leap for mankind.
Enrique, as far as I am concerned, you are as hot and sexy as ever. Maybe a bit more so. You may have single-handedly (or with a single appendage anyway) created some space to rethink the myth of male penis size. Being less endowed won’t necessarily make you an inferior lover, far from it, but it may leave you ill-protected if you’re using a condom that doesn’t fit well. By getting the word across, our boy is doing a huge service for sex education.
The ugly side of this great story involves the by-lines being spun by so many of the commentators. They might just be uncomfortable confronting the real issues being addressed here and the myths that they have always held to be true. They keep mentioning that Enrique is managing to hold onto his gorgeous model girlfriend, Anna Kournikova, despite his unfortunate shortcomings.
Well the lady don’t seem to be suffering, in fact she seems quite smitten. Maybe this can be a lesson to us to hold back on the assumptions and not judge a man (or a woman) until you’ve walked a mile in their latex.
You are, of course, welcome to your fantasies. And there is plenty room for fantasy here. And I didn’t mean room in the condom…..oh, forget it!
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| Wednesday, September 12, 2007 |
| Yoga That’s In Your Face |
Yoga and sex. They simply go hand-in-hand-in-foot.
The West has taken a liking to its earthiness and its body-toning possibilities, but hasn’t really take to the whole ascetic deal.
Just look at the way it has “developed”. We no longer bother with Sanskrit names like Ashtanga or Iyengar for schools of yoga. We just take whatever’s at hand. That’s because they seem to be taking other forms of exercise, adding a Namaste or two, and calling it yoga, in the hope that yoga’s sexy charm will draw in the crowds and give it the stamp of coolness.
A few years ago Monkey Yoga arrived. Because cosmopolitans just don’t have the time to sit around and gain spiritual peace and body tranquility. They need a tight ass and time is of the essence! So they do a barefoot workout with yoga-like movements speeded up to trigger aerobic burn-off capacities. Well, a good aerobic workout does boost the libido, but why do they have to call it yoga?
Another recent addition is Bikram Yoga. Sure this is yoga, but it’s done in a room at 40˚C (105˚F) and 40% humidity. And if you were wondering, it didn’t come out of Southern India where that’s the temperature out on the streets on a mid-summer’s day (and where you wont see people practicing yoga in such conditions), but it’s straight out of Beverly Hills. It has even been copyrighted!
This past week, we’ve learned of the new thing in New York City. It’s called Face Yoga. They say it can do from the inside what the plastic surgeon does with her knife. OK, then...

Courtesy of Reuters
I can’t help wandering why you need to go togged out to the gym to do what the Maoris in New Zealand (and of course their co-national All Black rugby team) have been doing for generations as a war dance.

My suspicion is that someone was looking to put a new spin on yoga, and the imagination was running thin. Although breathing has been well covered, the facial muscles have been only minimally explored. Now our facial muscles are not only about youthful looks; they are also very much aligned with sexual nuances. Tongues, lips and eyes are nothing if they are not the most direct indicators of sexual interest and explicit sexual acts.
So don’t think you’re fooling us with anti-aging rhetoric. Facial muscle exercises can’t give you the elastic skin of your youth. They can, though, do a lot for suggesting new and improved oral techniques.
More about how yoga improves your sex life
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| Wednesday, September 05, 2007 |
| Sex Just Doesn’t Get Old |
Age is not a reason to stop having sex, but bad health is. It makes you want to crunch a carrot instead of that cream puff, doesn’t it?
A survey done by the University of Chicago (Tessler Lindau and Waite) found that most of the middle-aged and older people in the US are having sex: 73% of the 57-64 year olds, 53% among 65-74 year olds, and even 26% of 75 to 85-ers.

Being sexually active doesn’t mean twice a week (which is about what most of the people have a century younger are managing), it may be only a few times a year, but hey, as long as it’s still in their memory, right?
Of course the sexual activity drops as we get older, but this is certainly related to worsening health. At all age groups, the healthier ones are getting it more.
The problem lies with the fact that women outlive men, so each year there are more women left without partners. This is why studies show that as the age increases, there is an growing difference between men and women in the percentages that are sexually active.
I’m wondering if the researchers are daring to ask these golden girls if they include sex with toys when they report on sexual activity. Maybe if they’d ask the right questions, they’d be surprised at how the findings would change.
Read more on sex after menopause
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